20 top self-care tips to ponder in the Crone Zone
- Maddie
- Dec 28, 2025
- 6 min read
1. Honour your energy before your to-do list
Your energy is not infinite, and that is not a flaw — it is a refinement.
Learning to notice when your body is willing and when it is weary is one of the great skills we gain as we move along our personal timeline.
When you plan your day around your energy instead of forcing yourself through exhaustion, your whole system softens.
True self-care begins when you stop overriding your inner signals and start respecting and listening to the whispers of that Wise One Within.
2. Start the day by checking in, not checking out
Before reaching for your phone or engaging with the outside world, take a few moments to arrive fully in your body. A hand on your heart or belly, a slow breath, and a gentle question — What do I need today? — can set the tone for everything that follows.
This simple practice keeps you anchored in yourself rather than being pulled immediately into demands, noise, or comparison.
I try and start my day in natural sunlight, outside in the garden. This not only helps balance my Cortisol levels but also gives me the perfect moment to ask myself what I need for the day.
3. Move your body kindly
Movement in the Crone Zone is about circulation, flexibility, balance, and enjoyment — not punishment or pushing limits. Walking, gentle stretching, Qi Gong, swimming, or dancing in your kitchen all count.
Your body responds best when it feels safe and appreciated. Kind movement keeps energy flowing without draining your reserves.
Watch your 'balance' too - here's a link to my recent 'balance in the Crone Zone series' that you may find gives you a few ideas ..... https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/91olki7e70wdri0qps89r/The-Collated-Manuel-for-BALANCE-IN-THE-CRONE-ZONE-2025.pdf?rlkey=jrmq15i915gegacir66ze0jdm&dl=0
4. Feed yourself like someone you love
How you eat is as important as what you eat.
Slowing down, taking time to chew food, choosing foods that support digestion and steady energy, and paying attention to how meals make you feel are all acts of respect.
Learn to 'test before you ingest' to discover EXACTLY what suits your individual body chemistry. Let your body be your guide. (lots of info in by blogs on how to do this)
https://www.madisonking.com/post/the-art-of-mindful-chewing-unlocking-the-secret-to-healthier-eating
5. Hydration is energetic hygiene
Water supports every system in the body — physical, emotional, and energetic.
Dehydration can masquerade as fatigue, irritability, hunger or brain fog.
Drink regularly, sip slowly, and if you like, take a moment to bless or thank your water. This small pause can be surprisingly grounding.
Take a couple of grains of Celtic salt before you drink - it improves the efficiency of cell hydration.
6. Protect your nervous system
Your nervous system has carried you through decades of life. It deserves gentleness now. Constant noise, upsetting news, and emotional drama take a real toll.
Self-care may mean turning things off, saying no, or choosing quiet over stimulation.
Peace is not laziness — it is medicine.
7. Breathe consciously — often
Breath is the quickest way to change how you feel. A few slow, deep breaths can calm anxiety, settle digestion, and restore clarity.
When in doubt, breathe. When overwhelmed, breathe again. This simple practice is always available and profoundly effective. Don't wait for a stress, set the intention to check in with your breathe daily and avoid 'mouth breathing' - a Pulmonary Physio once told me that the mouth was designed for eating, drinking and talking NOT breathing! I encourage nose breathing by taping my mouth at night. It's not as strange as it sounds!
8. Treat your sleep as sacred
Sleep patterns change, and fighting them often creates more stress.
Prioritising rest, consistent bedtimes, low lighting in the evening, and gentle wind-down rituals can make a real difference.
Rest is when the body repairs, the nervous system resets, and the spirit integrates. Guard it carefully.
Is sleep a problem for you? You might find this helpful: https://www.madisonking.com/product-page/sleep-matters
9. The power of touch
Self-touch — through oiling the skin, gentle massage, or holding acupressure points — reminds your body that it is safe and cared for.
This kind of contact supports circulation, soothes the nervous system, and strengthens your relationship with your own physical form.
10. Keep your feet on the Earth
Grounding through direct contact with the earth helps stabilise energy, calm the mind, and support balance. Barefoot time on grass, soil, or sand is especially beneficial.
If going barefoot isn’t possible, spending time in nature or visualising roots from your feet into the earth can have a similar effect.
Try this for some ideas: https://www.madisonking.com/product-page/mini-module-1
11. Be discerning as to what — and who — you allow in
Discernment is a gift. You are allowed to choose relationships, conversations, and environments that nourish rather than drain you.
Letting go of what no longer fits creates space for deeper peace and more authentic connection.
12. Work with your emotions, not against them
Emotions do not disappear when ignored; they settle into the body.
Allowing yourself to feel — without judgement — helps energy move and prevents stagnation.
Listening to emotions with curiosity rather than resistance is a powerful form of self-care
13. Create small daily rituals
Ritual brings rhythm and meaning to everyday life, it can encourage consistency in our self care.
A morning cup of tea, doing an energy exercise while the kettle is boiling, lighting a candle at dusk, or a short gratitude pause before bed can become anchors of calm.
These moments help us connect to the stillness within where we can often find the answers to our questions.
14. Your plant allies
Herbs, essential oils, and flower essences have supported women for generations.
Used with knowledge and respect, they can gently support mood, sleep, digestion, and emotional balance.
Ideally energy test to identify what you need at this particular moment, to support you, be it physically, emotionally, mentally or energetically.
The same goes for supplementation: I have MANY supplements but only take what tests strong that day, through testing, value biofeedback emerges.
15. Laugh whenever possible
Laughter shifts stagnant energy, relaxes the body, and lightens emotional weight.
It is one of the simplest and most effective healing tools we have.
Seek humour, share stories, and allow yourself joy without apology.
16. Let go of perfection
This is a hard one for me as I'm a Metal Element personality, so always seek perfection, but that can be exhausting and unnecessary.
Your home, body, work, and life do not need to meet impossible standards to be meaningful.
Self-care includes allowing things — and yourself — to be good enough.
This is still a work in progress for me, but getting there!
17. Stay curious
Curiosity keeps energy moving and the mind engaged.
Learning something new, exploring ideas, or revisiting old interests can refresh your sense of aliveness.
Curiosity is a form of vitality, we learn, evolve and grow when curious.
18. Speak kindly to yourself
Those of you who know me, know I'm always going on about how, to the cells of our body, we are the voice of the goddess (or god). The way you talk to yourself matters. Keep it positive and kind. Harsh inner dialogue can quietly undermine wellbeing.
Practice noticing your self-talk and gently rephrasing when it's not positive or kind.
ENERGY TESTING
This is perhaps my #1 recommendation for everyone. If you don't know already how to self-test - learn, you won't regret it and it will be your new best friend and take the guesswork out of self-care. Lots of blogs + video links on my website (all free) + I do the occasional FREE online class on the four basic self tests, how to take it beyond a yes/no response ..... next class in the series will be on THURSDAY 8TH January at 6.30pm London time (10.30am Pacific) where I'll be sharing how to determine quantity and brand differences. The link will go out an hour before class begins and the replay link a couple of hours after class. If you can join live, it would be lovely to see you onscreen.
20. Find the joy in where you are now.
Pleasure, joy, rest, gentle contentment and fulfilment are not indulgences — they are rightful companions in the Crone Zone! There is always joy, it's just that sometimes we can't reach it, but it's there.
Gentle contentment often lives in the small, easily overlooked moments — the warmth of a cup in your hands, the steady rhythm of your breath, the comfort of a familiar chair, or the quiet presence of an animal companion resting nearby.
These moments may seem ordinary, yet they carry a deep kind of nourishment.
There is wisdom in learning to stop searching for happiness as something grand or dramatic and instead allowing contentment to unfold softly.
This kind of joy asks very little of us. It does not require everything to be perfect or resolved. It simply asks us to be present enough to notice what is already here. It can be a whisper rather than a shout, so we need to be able to find a stillness where we can hear that whisper.
Finding joy does not mean denying difficulty.
We can hold grief, worry, or fatigue alongside moments of lightness.
Both can exist at the same time.
In the Crone Zone we begin to develop the ability to hold complexity without forcing resolution.
Sometimes, the most radical act of self-care is simply allowing yourself to be content, even briefly, exactly where you are
PS - and if any of you want to give up smoking ..... this may help: https://www.madisonking.com/post/ashtrays-in-the-waiting-room-how-i-became-and-stayed-a-non-smoker
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